You’re Insecure Because You Won’t Forgive Yourself

Have you ever been paranoid that someone’s going to cheat on you, screw you over or take advantage of you?

I used to think that kind of paranoia came from watching people too closely—trying to read their intentions, always overanalyzing their actions.

But I’ve realized something: I thought if I could see everything it would make me feel safe. But it’s not about them at all.

It’s about you.

You assume people will do to you what you believe is possible.

And what you believe is possible is shaped by what you’ve done—or more specifically what you haven’t forgiven yourself for.

If you still carry shame for something you did years ago,

..don’t be surprised when your mind convinces you the world works that way.

Think about it. If you’ve ever lied, cheated, or betrayed someone—even if it was years ago—you might have buried it. But your subconscious didn’t.

The shame lingers, shaping how you see people and making you skeptical, guarded, or afraid.

It’s easy to convince yourself that "everyone is like this" when, deep down, you’re still judging yourself for it.

But what if you forgave yourself?

What if you stopped carrying that weight and gave grace to the flawed version of you who didn’t know better?

Forgiveness isn’t about excusing past mistakes. It’s about setting yourself free. And the moment you do, your paranoia starts to fade—your perspective changes.

And suddenly, the world isn’t as dangerous as you thought it was.

If you try it and if you find something, let me know—what did you notice?